It’s crazy that this person has been such a huge part of Brittain’s life, yet she doesn’t appear on this blog very much. She’s the one person who seems to stay “behind-the-scenes” in Brittain’s life, even though she spends more time with her than most everyone in the whole family, aside from me.

I was hit hard recently with the news that Lindsey is moving. I knew the time was bound to come at some point, and I also knew that whenever it came, it would be way too soon. When she told me about her new job at The Cloister at Sea Island, I really didn’t get upset. Like I said, I knew it was coming.

The realization came when I began looking for another nanny to take her place. I realized that Lindsey had been part of Brittain’s life and taking care of her since she was six weeks old! It was then that I knew how difficult this change in all of our lives was going to be. Lindsey is the ultimate in a caretaker. Aside from the fact that Brittain adores her, I run out the door every morning knowing that she has everything under control. When she arrives, Brittain is more often than not, still in her pj’s and hasn’t eaten. When I arrive home, she is clothed, fed (breakfast and lunch) and has had her afternoon nap. Lindsey fills me in on the day and I am able to easily pick up where she left off.

We will miss Lindsey immensely and I know it will take all of us some time to adjust to her not being here everyday. I’m so very thankful for the time we’ve had with her. We’re all better for it. Thank you, Lindsey. We love you and we wish you the very best in your new endeavors!

I finally feel like I’m back to the land of the living. Last Wednesday I came down with a bout of stomach flu. I had the regular flu last month, but it was nothing compared to these three days of pure hell. During the three days while I laid in bed wishing I was dead, I pawned my poor child off to anyone who would take care of her. Lindsey, Dan, Mimi, and Gramy and Papa cared for her while I recovered. I even heard that Preacher Kevin stopped by while Lindsey was here to blow some bubbles with Brittain!

It was a wonderful feeling when I was able take care of Brittain again. I couldn’t believe how much I had missed our daily routine and just being able to spend time with her. The day that I felt better, I was working in the afternoon rather than the morning. After we spent some time watching her favorite morning shows, we went to the kitchen for breakfast. As Brittain was eating, I unloaded the dishwasher and straightened the kitchen. I was talking to her, telling her how much I had missed her, how proud I was of her, and how happy I was to be feeling better and spending time with her. I finished what I was saying, and almost on cue Brittain said, “I wuv you.” It was the first time these three words had come out of her mouth. My heart melted and I felt that swell in my heart as I looked at my now 21 month old. I was reminded yet again that there’s no happiness like this.

My silly girl:

Our attempt at a self-portrait. We kept getting so tickled!:

Last weekend we got together with Matt, Jenny, and Ava Parker. Dan and I grew up with Jenny, and we have continued the close relationship after Matt and Jenny married. (I even sang at their wedding!) We couldn’t have been more thrilled when we found out she was pregnant just a few months after I became pregnant. We knew that our children would be friends. Since Ava was born, they have lived in Macon so it was difficult to get together as much as we would have liked. It goes without saying that we were thrilled when we found out that were moving back to Griffin. It has taken us a couple of months to plan a get-together, but we finally did it. This would be only the third time that Ava and Brittain would be around each other. The other times had been at birthday parties and such, so not such a great place for them to really get to know each other and play together. Jenny and I were excited to watch the beginning of their relationship.

I’ve been intrigued as I’ve watched other children’s personalities who are around Brittain’s age. I figured that Ava would probably be a lot like Brittain. Like Brittain, Ava hasn’t gone to daycare. Since she was born she’s been in the care of her parents, Jenny’s mother, or Jenny’s grandmother. So, I have to admit that I was a little surprised when the Parkers arrived and I saw Ava’s confidence and invincible attitude. When Ava walked into the house you could see Brittain giving her the “once over.” She was taking her time, looking her over, checking her out, making sure she wasn’t a serial killer. Ava, on the other hand, ran straight up to Brittain to greet her with a huge hug. You could tell that Brittain was a little uncomfortable with this straightforwardness (is this a word?), but she allowed it. The unfortunate part of this moment happened when both girls lost their footing and fell to the floor. Neither of them were hurt in the least. In fact, Ava immediately jumped back up and went onto something else. Brittain, however, acted as if she had broken a limb on the way down and she would never recover. I did what any mother would do. I picked her up and comforted her, but I found myself in an awkward situation. While I wanted to say, “Baby. It’s okay. Mommy’s here. Let me hold you and comfort you and make it all better,” I also found myself attempting to have the nonchalant mother attitude like, “ha ha ha. what in the world? you’re okay. nothing’s wrong with you. you NEVER do this!” Let me tell you, it’s difficult to do both of these at the same time. After about a half hour of consoling, Brittain seemed to be okay and was ready to get back in the game. The funny part is that Ava continued to be affectionate and was determined to let Brittain know how much she cared. After the first hug that resulted in the tumble to the floor, we saw that Brittain was apparently NOT into this. The rest of the evening was spent with Ava having the time of her life (while showing her adoration to Brittain) and Brittain keeping a safe distance from Ava while watching her out of the corner of her eye to make sure she didn’t get too close.

I believe that the night ended well. I finally realized that we were among friends and there was no way Jenny was judging my child or my mothering skills. The real relief came in the days following. Since last Friday, Brittain frequently talks about “Matt, Aunt Jenny, and Ava.”   She obviously has fond memories as well.

Jenny emailed me a couple days later and told me that her mom had a good laugh as she told her that she had the “town bully.” I laughed as I realized that Ava was the first “hugging bully” I had ever met. After this night, Jenny and I vowed to get the girls together often.  Perhaps this will serve to “toughen” Brittain up.  You know, the “Tough Love” approach : )

Ava arrived dressed to the nines and ready to play:

The first hug that didn’t end well:

“I’m okay. You’re okay.”:

A hug attempt:

and the result:

You can’t see me, of course, but I’m the one behind the camera continuing to take pictures hoping that would make me seem like I was easily able to laugh this off. (All the while I was DYING on the inside as Brittain was screaming, “MOMMY!!!! HOLDYOU!!!!”):

Ava took a few minutes to relax:

then do a few lunges:

then put on her game face. She was ready to go in again:

And she did:

“Hee hee. Hee hee. Hee hee. Yes, I’m having fun. Why do you ask? Do I look nervous or something? Hee hee. Hee hee.”:

A sweet moment as Brittain and Ava shared in the joy of stickers:

“Yeah, we’re sharing. We’re fine. See?”:

I ALMOST caught a cute picture. Ava and Brittain were both sitting in these chairs, reclined. Of course I waited a half of a second, which is like 30 minutes in toddler time:

“I’m good now. It’s 2 hours past my bedtime. I’m so delirious I don’t even realize I’m here.”:

Since Jenny and I had been watching after the kids all evening, the boys offered to give us a break. This is one of the pictures I found on the camera the next day:

Brittain finally gave in at about 10:30 and passed out on Daddy. Ava, however, hung in there until the bitter end. When they left at midnight, she was still going strong.